Fantasy dreams

Sex is an integral part of human relationships. It can be difficult when one partner has decreased libido and desire , and a lack of sex can put a damper on any relationship. While some people make a claim that sex is not important in a relationship, even the Christian bible speaks of sex as something that a man and wife must do to keep their relationship alive.With sex being such an important aspect of our relationships and marriages, it is important to explore the reasons why decreased libido and desire occurs so that a solution to the problem can be found.

Decreased Libido And Desire - Relationship Issues

A marriage is like a rollercoaster (as is any relationship), and there are ups and downs. You may go through a dry patch with your spouse where you do not make love as often as you used to. There may not be any medical cause for this decreased libido and desire but lifestyle or aging. If one spouse is working nights and the other is working days, that lifestyle may not be conducive to making love. This is even more so if you have children. Many married couples find it easy to be physically intimate after the children go to bed. If one spouse is working nights that often makes it impossible to find alone time to make love. In addition, aging is another very common cause of decreased libido and desire . As our bodies age the sex drive often decreases. Some people find taking medication helps them to remain active with their sexuality while others simply go with the natural changes in life.

There are other common and non medical causes for a decreased libido and desire . Having a baby can wreak havoc on a new mother's body image. If your wife does not feel comfortable in her own skin, it may be very difficult for her to make love to you. She feels different as her body has changed through childbirth, and she may be embarrassed or ashamed of her new body.

In addition, having a new baby means lack of sleep and added stress. If a husband and wife are exhausted and stressed out at the end of the day, sex is the last thing on their mind.

Finally, breastfeeding can also decrease libido and desire. A fun part of sex, the breasts, is now off limits. That can turn many men and women off. In addition, breastfeeding makes the walls of the vagina very smooth which can lead to painful sex. Even if the new mother does not suffer from a decreased libido and desire , she will most likely need lubricant to make sex comfortable for her.

Another common cause for decreased libido and desire is relationship blues. If one or both parties in the relationship are not happy, it is a high possibility that the sex drive will be very low or nonexistent. The key to having a healthy sex life is to have a healthy and happy relationship to begin with.

Decreased Libido And Desire - Medical And Drug Issues

Other common causes for decreased libido and desire stem from medical and drug issues. Certain illnesses and the medication that one must take with these illnesses can cause a decrease in sex drive. While this does not bother some people, if it is bothersome you may want to consult your caregiver to see if there is another medication you can take for your problem. Sometimes, however, the choice must be made between being healthy and well and not having a sex drive and having a sex drive but suffering from your illness. A caring partner should want you to make the former choice.

In addition to prescription drugs, illegal drugs—as well as alcohol—can cause a decreased libido and desire . Illegal drugs destroy your body and your function, so it is natural that excessive use of drugs like cocaine and heroin would decrease your sex drive. Some illegal substances have been known to enhance the sexual experience, but it is temporary and certainly not worth the long term risk of a decreased sex drive.

There are many reasons why you may experience a decreased libido and desire . If you are concerned, make an appointment with your caregiver to discuss your options for treatment.

Dreaming. Do you or don’t you? Do you dream about the future or just have a fantasy dream after a couple of late night tacos?

Dreams get us going. Dreams direct our lives, our focus our direction.

Many of us have forgotten how to dream or haven’t taken the time to dream in years. We get so busy that we never relax our mind and let it dream. Dare I say day-dream?

When we were all kids, we would dream for hours. We had all the time in the world to dream. We had no limits. We had no fears. Short of the “boogie man” we had no idea what fear was.

We could lie in the grass, look at the clouds and dream and dream again. Our friends didn’t tell us our dreams were nonsense but instead dreamed BIG dreams at our side!

The what happened ? Parents, sport coaches, teachers and sometimes our older friends started to steal pieces of our dreams. We were told we would never make the big league- the pros because we just weren’t good enough. We were told we could never be that famous actor/actress –it would never happen. We were too fat, too short, we couldn’t sing, we couldn’t dance.

These dream stealers started to poke holes in our dreams. Then we started to doubt ourselves. When things didn’t work out the way we dreamed, we put up a wall between daily life and our dreams. Heck, maybe you even just plain gave up but I guarantee that you started to settle. Settle for this. Settle for that ! I guess that it’s not that bad. I guess I can get by, etc. Words we all know. Words that start to steal our dreams.

Well it’s time for a change!

It’s time to know and believe in our hearts that DREAMING IS NEVER OPTIONAL!

It’s time to dream and then dream again! Dreaming is never optional!

There is a famous philosopher- Mr. Mickey Mouse. Mickey tells us “Believe your dreams can come true. Never stop dreaming, and remember anything, anything can happen!”

It’s time to find some quiet time and just let it all go and start to dream as kid again.

What do you really want ? Forget all about what Mom wanted for you or where you are “stuck” today.

One hour, one day of dreaming is not enough. It will take some time to remember just how to dream. It took years for you to forget how to dream so give yourselves some time to remember how. Regardless, it’s time to start dreaming once again !

“Taking the risk to follow our hearts gives energy to our future and breathes life into our dreams”—Debbie Ford

Once we know our dreams, goals can be established. Goals that will constantly take you a step closer-even if a small step closer towards your dreams. Goals are a plan to help us realize our dreams. Goals plan the actions that must take place.

Dreams and goals are the planning, the thinking , the blueprint of your life. Action is the how ! Action is rolling up your sleeves and going for it!

Accomplishing your dreams require;

* Solid clear goals

* Action

* Pursuit

* Persistence

Persistence is often the key. Persistence, or as my wife calls it with me “stubbornness”. Call it whatever you want but it is the will to keep going, keep pushing over , around, or though obstacles to get what you truly want in life!

Real dreams are what you truly desire deep down. Dreams are worth pursuing. Dreams are worth sacrifice. They are not-I wish! They are not – I want! They are a burning desire to accomplish something or have something.

You dreams will happen if you have the courage to pursue them!!

Protect your dreams and the dreams of your love ones. Protect them because they are one of your most valued possessions. Don’t ever let anyone steal your dreams.

We have established that dreaming is NEVER optional ! So what are your dreams?? It’s now your turn to dream and dream again!!

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours.”-Thoreau

“ Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by things you didn’t do than the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” _ Mark Twain

We've all had that one dream girl at some point in life, haven't we? For most guys, this usually turns out to be nothing more than a mirage of what could be, as most guys never win the girl of their dreams. Of course, they always do in movies, but in the real world, it just does not happen that way. That does not mean that it can't happen, it just means that most men are unable to win over the woman that they dream about.

When you really get it, what it takes to make a woman fall in love, then you can raise the odds of YOU being able to win the girl of your dreams and you can become one of those guys that other men are jealous of when they see him out with a beautiful girl.

Here are a few love tips for men that will help YOU win the girl of your dreams:

1. Read her body language right and you will know what she is feeling. When you know how to read a woman's body language and interpret it the right way, you can take a look at a woman and already have a really good understanding of how she feels. This will help you to say the right things at just the right time, which has a very powerful effect on whether or not she falls in love with you.

2. Make her laugh all of the time and she will want to spend more time with YOU. Knowing how to make a woman laugh is the key to being able to spend a lot of time with her. And when you are the guy that she wants to spend all of her time with, then you have a much better chance at making her fall in love with you. Most guys try to impress a woman by being ‘cool', but funny will get you a quick place in her heart.

3. When you know how to make her WANT YOU, then she will fall in love. Most men make the mistake of trying to be friends with their fantasy dream girl, but being friends with her is not going to make her fall in love. If you want to really make her head spin and her heart reel when she thinks about you, you have to make her want you. You have to tap into her desire.